Well, the day is starting off strong.
First, I want to wish everyone a happy, healthy, renewing First Day of Spring.
Practically, the First Day of Spring marks the day that the hours of light and dark are equal and balanced.
Spiritually, it is a seasonal time of personal growth and rebirth. After the cold, the Spring Equinox is when significant changes happen and life begins to appear again.
It is also my 45 birthday and I forgave my stepmother.
All of this might feel as if it is happening way too quickly, but
to give you a bit of back story…
Many years ago I forgave my father who was abusive and often thoughtless.
Many years before that I forgave my mother who abandoned me and was often careless.
But my stepmother was a different story. I could not forgive her missteps.
There are many things she did that were hurtful, but I am not going to focus on these things.
How did I get to this step of forgiveness on my 45 birthday and the First Day of Spring?
I’m not sure. She texted me Happy Birthday and it flowed from there. Somewhere, somehow today, I decided I wanted to forgive.
Perhaps it was her reminder that in 1986, she was 26, had my brother who was 13, me who was 10, and Shane who was a newborn.
Perhaps my realization that she was so young carrying so much weight at a job she was completely ill-equipped to handle suddenly made sense.
She lacked the tools, education and support to truly complete the necessary tasks of raising little humans.
We can’t give what we don’t have.
She did give me many things though, many positive things. She guided and supported my education. She taught me how to cook and how creating food and sharing food is a true act of kindness and love.
For these things, I am forever grateful.
She helped forge the person I am today for better or for worse.
As I write this, I can hear the sounds of birds in the trees outside my window. The sun is rising in the east and I can just feel the newness of all things around me.
Perhaps turning 45 is a turning point indeed, another transformation or even a transmutation. The beginning of a renewal and rebirth I have waited for for a lifetime.
Love and Light on this beautiful first day of Spring.
Congratulations 💛🎂
Thanks so much!!!
Thanks!!!
Happiest of birthday wishes sent your way my love🎆❤🥰 I’m so happy for you, this is big stuff. I believe it is in forgiving that compassion flows, higher consciousness grows and we see things from a shift in perspective. You are really opening up and it’s absolutely stunning to bear witness to. You’re committed to your path by questioning everything. This is what transpires from a place of wholeness. I can absolutely see how our wohas effected you so tremendously. May you continue to shine as the bright beacon of light and love you are Kelly. I ❤️ you.
Thank you!! Love you, too. 💕💕 You have been such a tremendous part of this transformation.
We are dancing in the winds of transformation together always sister ❤❤
Happy birthday. For me, forgiving became somewhat easier when I realized ai could forgive without forgiving. The weight of carrying the burden becomes greater than the act of forgiveness. Move forward from here changed and with an open and healed heart. The best to you on your birthday.
Thanks so much! I completely agree!
Sounds like you’ve given yourself the best birthday gift possible. Enjoy!
I did! Thank you so much.
Wow that is such a strong thing to do forgiveness is hard especially when you have been affected so much. I am inspired by that fact that you managed to forgive your mum, dad and stepmum who have all hurt you in some way. Well done and congratulations, a massive achievement. I am yet to forgive some people in my life. Your post is inspirational, also that must have been fantastic for your 45 birthday!
Oh! Thank you so much!! I really am so glad you could connect with my experience.
I can definitely scarily relate. You have given me hope that one day I will achieve forgiveness
Wow! I think that is amazing. I was just talking to a good friend about forgiveness and I realized forgiveness can often be about control. Before forgiveness happens, it can feel like you will not be in control of the pain you felt from the hurt. After you forgive, you realize trying to control it was what was causing the pain in the first place. Release your resentments and you will feel so much lighter and more free. Good luck, my friend. 💕
I have heard people say that before however it seems so difficult to release the resentments. I am slowly starting to release some, very hard and I think will take me many years. Thank you for your advice, I am listening and trying to act upon the advice you have given. I do wish to feel lighter and more free.