The truth is such a touchy subject. We all want it from others, but when it comes to speaking our truth, what happens? I watch as friends, family, colleagues lie about how they really feel, and then they get upset or even angry when people act in certain ways because they believe the lie they’ve been told.
My husband often does this. He will feign agreement. Sometimes his agreement is tepid, which I have learned through “relationship-behavior-management” training is an indicator of believer beware. Sometimes I really don’t know that what he is saying is not a true representation of how he feels, and then I act on my belief, and he gets distant and forlorn. It’s exhausting.
But when we speak our truth, we have to deal with the ramifications of it, right? We have to live with the external uncomfortable that our truth creates because people don’t really want to hear the “truth”. They often only want to hear the comfortable. When you speak your truth, the chances someone else feels uncomfortable goes up exponentially. But isn’t this just a another way that society ensures the comfortability of living a lie?
There is a cost, though. Lies always have a cost. The truth has a consequence, but lies, well, lies rack up some serious debt. Living a lie can cost someone a lifetime of joy as opposed to perhaps destroying someone’s image of who you are. Lying about how you feel when a person treats you poorly costs the ability for you to truly be who are. Telling the truth may actually help others to see you as you are. It’s a difficult balance, but I will I feel is worth the investment.
When we tell the truth as we know it or see it, the Universe rises to occasion. I have feared telling the truth, only to learn on the other side of it, a feeling of freedom I didn’t even know existed. There have been times when I’ve envisioned the lie. Saw in my mind’s eye the entire thing play out around my lie, but then reminded myself I am only a truth teller, so this cannot happen. Later, when I go to speak my truth, I remember the lie, and I feel nothing but gratitude for the fact that now it is not something I have to carry around with me anymore. Lies are baggage, and they are heavy and tight. The more you tell, the heavier the weight. I prefer not to have any, and I remind myself of the baggage when I feel a lie wanting to crop up.
So what is your truth and are you speaking it? If not, why not? If so, you know what I am saying.
Love and Light, all!
The Wandering Empath 
Some people only ever take the easy option and say what they know people want to hear.
So true. The crazy part is that it is never easy, but it just seems that way at the time.
One of the beautiful gifts to myself in the ever unfolding awakening and healing process is continually practicing radical honesty and acceptance. When I can commit to doing this, by loving and trusting myself, the truth inevitably follows. I’ve spent forty years people pleasing, looking for validation and acceptance outside of myself and now I allow my authentic voice to sing. How others hear my voice is of no concern because I can’t control the perception of others. How they think and feel is a reflection of themselves. This also relates to the mirror we are for one another. Some of us have dirty lenses because of what we don’t want to face and be honest with ourselves about. The truth as they say shall set you free Andy experience has taught me that the more honest I am with myself the more freedom I feel overall. At the end of the day, my integrity and how I feel about myself is priority number one that is my se responsibility.
What a great post Kelly! Thank you for being so open and honest about your truth and how not hearing it at times in your own relationships makes you feel. We can all relate to it! Especially us empaths who know the truth of others desire their blindness at times in facing it. Love you ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much for your response! It is beautiful-as always. Your way of viewing your truth is amazing, and I strive to get to the same place. I am not sure I was ever a people pleaser, but I know I have put way too much stake and stock in other people’s opinion of me. Instead of believing and trusting myself, I relied heavily on what other people felt ( a definite drawback for a young Empath). When it is easy to know how people feel, but also unable to know why they feel that way, a myriad of possibilities can be overwhelming. I am sure much of what I thought was true was not, but it never changed how much I wanted to be what others to think I was something I wasn’t so I could feel good. I wanted to appear tough, emotionless, stoic, unable to be hurt or even affected by them. So destructive! Again, thanks for commenting. You ALWAYS give me so much to think about. Love you, too🥰♥
Happy to be a mirror for your own beautiful curiosity my friend ❤️ The journey of life is to keep questioning and examining ourselves to further uncover the truth. Love to you🥰🙌
Careful what you wish for…
Good advice! Thanks