Parenting #101: “The conversational dilemma and arguing with your child”

My two boys are extremely different. Cole is my arguer. If I say…well, just about anything, he will tell me I am wrong. He often asks “why” and try and talk his way out of every directive. It’s exhausting. When it comes to healthy conversations where we could find some connection, he completely shuts down…

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Parenting #101: “A portrait of a teenager”

The first known usage of the word teenager was in 1912. Strange to think about really. Only a few years before the start of World War I and decades away from the 1960s, which is the era of the teenager. Baby Boomers marked record numbers of these youngsters and for the first time in history…

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Parenting #101: “It’s all about the controls”

Anyone raising a teenager knows about the power struggles. It reminds me of when I would play tug-of-war in elementary school. Tug, pull, release, drag, one step closer to the line…one step further away. Other days, it can feel more like a seesaw. The other person has just as much control as you do. It…

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Parenting #101: “Still life with teenager”

My teenage son and I are standing in the kitchen. His face is pointed down because he has a tough time making eye contacting with me when we are butting heads. He has returned home from his dad’s and he’s full. I have been informed he will not be joining us for dinner because he…

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Question of the Day: “How do you get more choices?”

Raising a teen is a daunting task, but being a teacher of teenagers has really helped. Over the years, my students have taught me a valuable lesson: the more mistakes you make, the less choices you get. Students who make poor choices over and over again start to lose certain freedoms. They lose the trust…

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Question of the day: “When did we hit August?”

I love summer. Summertime and the living’s easy as Ella Fitzgerald sings. I don’t really enjoy the massive heat wave which has taken over the East coast area, but we have sought relief at our local pool. Jonah, my anxiety riddled son, has left getting his swim band until the last minute. The last minute…

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Question of the Day: “What is normal?”

Normal. We throw this word around to describe typical things, the ordinary, the usual, the suspected. It’s a label, really. An arbitrary term subjectively applied to people and situations, and it seems more about people’s opinions than fact. Defining “normal” is difficult, though it is used most often to explain why someone feels comfortable or…

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The Best Conversation with My Son During an Afternoon Stroll

My son Jonah has autism and severe anxiety. It has been a lifetime of people asking me, “What’s wrong with Jonah?” There is always something, but he’s ten now, and it seems as if things are starting to change. We always go on long walks in the afternoon. Jonah recites his “monologues”. For those of…

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Question of the Day: “How did I have the BEST conversation with my Teen?”

Talking to teens is tough, but it is not impossible. I know this because I’ve been teaching teens for 20 years and now I have a teen living in my house. Teens are many things. They can be unreasonable, uncommunicative and trying, but they can also be sensitive, struggling, and thoughtful. The real problem with…

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