Question of the Day: “Is it okay if I am not Wonder Woman?”

Many years ago, my husband bought me a key chain with the WonderWoman logo on it. I have always loved Wonder Woman. I wore her underoos as a kid. The most recent movies are good, but my heart will always be with Lynda Carter and the series from the 70s. I fell in love with…

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Question of the Day: “What does it feel like when I do a reading of a person who is in denial?”

The people I read always give me permission to read them. Most of the time, they are not sure what to expect. Almost all of them end up crying. I often end up crying. Sadness is such a powerful emotion, and many people go out of their way to not feel their sadness. They bury…

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Question of the Day: “What lessons did I learn from my son on our nightly run?”

My son and I have been running nightly for the last week. He’s much faster than I am, so we walk to our starting spot and then he takes off. I jog casually behind him until he is done. After he runs his distance at his own pace, he turns around to meet me and…

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Question of the Day: “What lessons have I learned from this year’s garden?”

I have wanted a large garden for years. My obsession with plants started at a very young age. It all started the day my mom bought me an African violet when I was only five years old. My diligence while taking care of the plant was unwavering. I watched it and watered it and loved…

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Question of the Day: “What do I do when I realize my husband is exactly the way I want him to be?”

When my husband gets stressed out and tired, he pulls back emotionally. It is severe and quick, and he will often continue this pattern for weeks on end. He doesn’t see it, and when I call his attention to my feeling disconnected, he gets defensive and frustrated. He is always just trying to make me…

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Question of the Day: “What is your adult attachment style?”

I am an anxious attacher with a strong avoidant streak that appears whenever I think the person I love may not love me. In short, I struggle with healthy relationships. I am both needy and dismissive. Sometimes in the same conversation. My abusive, emotionally distant father and my overly doting mother who abandoned me for…

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Question of the Day: “What happens when we just tell each other the truth?”

The truth is such a touchy subject. We all want it from others, but when it comes to speaking our truth, what happens? I watch as friends, family, colleagues lie about how they really feel, and then they get upset or even angry when people act in certain ways because they believe the lie they’ve…

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Question of the Day: “What are we going to do with all of this dirt?”

During the fall months, my friend’s husband helped us establish our front flower beds. Very kindly he offered his services and also use of the gardening center for dirt and mulch. He was helping us because it was a brand new house and he wanted to assist us in making it a wonderful landscape. Fast…

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Self Help #101: “It Didn’t Start with You”

I have started a new book. It is called It Didn’t Start with You. At first I found the title intriguing because it reminded me of Billy Joel’s “We Didn’t Start the Fire” song, which was really popular growing up. I feel there is a part in all of us that wants to see where…

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Question of the Day: “Why am I in such a terrible, horrible mood?”

My day is being rocked by my inability to stay grounded. If last week was a unladen trip through establishing “joy” in my day and in my career, then today feels like a field filled with landmines. Everywhere I turn, I can only see things that irritate me. My students are driving me crazy, though…

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