Question of the Day: “Do all Empaths love cemeteries?”

It sounds morbid and maybe even a bit unbelievable, but I love being in cemeteries. Please understand that I have also had a number of loved ones who have passed away and are buried in numerous locations throughout the East coast, so I am not in anyway trying to simplify the heartbreak people feel when…

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“Stop All of the Clocks” & the Empath

There is something unique that happens when you lose someone you love. It happens on every level: emotional, spiritual, physical. It permeates every moment in every possible way. Actions and events become something happening “after” the person has been lost. A clear delineation between the days before and the days after is created; the world…

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The Funeral & the Empath

My friend passed away over a month ago. She was cremated and on Saturday her family held her funeral. She was only 43 years old, but it was a graveside service, which I always felt was reserved more for the very old and people who died alone. I did not believe that my young friend…

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Looking for the Signs

Yesterday, my friend showed me something. Two weeks ago her mother-in-law passed away. My friend has been grappling with mourning her death because she struggled with dementia for twelve years. The last six years, her mother-in-law has been unresponsive.  She has been unable to swallow properly for the last year. Everyone prayed for her to…

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“Closer I am to Fine”

“I’m trying to tell you something ’bout my life/ maybe give me inside between black and white”– Indigo Girls I feel like my friend is trying to communicate with me. After three days of grieving and asking for some type of sign, little things are starting to seep through.  I say seep through because I…

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Sadness and REM

My friend loved REM.  Every mix tape she ever made me had an REM song on it.  I have been listening to their songs for the last two days.  I feel like somewhere in the lyrics and melody there are answers.      “You were a shirt of violent green, uh huh/ I never understood…

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Grief and Other Tough Things

I feel a bit lost today. After hearing about the death of my friend, I am struggling to stay grounded.  I cry at random times.  Swimming this morning was good, but I am still left with a strong sense of sadness. Memories of our times together growing up keep entering my mind. The bring a…

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Death of a Friend

I met my friend when we were in sixth grade. During middle school and high school, we were inseparable. She was the maid of honor in my wedding. I was the matron of honor in both of hers.  She was with me through both of my pregnancies.  I stood next to her at  her father’s…

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Imagine All the People Sharing the World…

After I attended yet another funeral, I realized the power of our shared experiences as human beings.  At a time when our country feels so polarized, I am reminded that we are all born, live, and die in very similar ways. After walking through the receiving line at the small funeral pallor, I was funneled…

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Mortality and the Empath

Last night I had a really difficult conversation with my two little boys. I told them that I was going to another funeral.  This is my third funeral in just one month’s time, and I have to be honest, I am feeling a bit overwhelmed by the thin line that separates us from life and…

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