Friendship #101: How to create space like an Empath

My entire life has been filled with friendships. Many of my friendships are more than two decades old. The number of people I hold dear and consider my closest of friends is considerable. I am also aware of how rare this is. My friends are placed in various groups: high school friends, work friends, college…

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Question of the Day: “What determines friendship?”

Friendship is a term that is often difficult to define. There are so many different ways a friendship can develop. It can evolve from working in the same space, a love of the same things, a failing on the part of sexual tension. Then there are the different levels: acquaintance, old friend, best friend, soul-mate…

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The Funeral & the Empath

My friend passed away over a month ago. She was cremated and on Saturday her family held her funeral. She was only 43 years old, but it was a graveside service, which I always felt was reserved more for the very old and people who died alone. I did not believe that my young friend…

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“Closer I am to Fine”

“I’m trying to tell you something ’bout my life/ maybe give me inside between black and white”– Indigo Girls I feel like my friend is trying to communicate with me. After three days of grieving and asking for some type of sign, little things are starting to seep through.  I say seep through because I…

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The Space Between

“It has been said that it’s the space between the bars that holds the tiger. And it’s the silence between the notes that makes the music. It is out of the silence, or “the gap,” or that space between our thoughts, that everything is created-including our own bliss.” – Dr. Wayne W. Dyer I am…

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Grief and Other Tough Things

I feel a bit lost today. After hearing about the death of my friend, I am struggling to stay grounded.  I cry at random times.  Swimming this morning was good, but I am still left with a strong sense of sadness. Memories of our times together growing up keep entering my mind. The bring a…

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Death of a Friend

I met my friend when we were in sixth grade. During middle school and high school, we were inseparable. She was the maid of honor in my wedding. I was the matron of honor in both of hers.  She was with me through both of my pregnancies.  I stood next to her at  her father’s…

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Love and the Empath Cont…

There are so many different types of love, and for much of my life, I have focused mostly on romantic love, but I am beginning to find that the one of the most rewarding types of love is shown through friendship.  My parental situation was less than stellar, and I found acceptance with a core…

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Dining with an Empath

On Friday, one of my coworkers told me that he has three job interviews in New Mexico.  We live and work in Pennsylvania.  You can see the problem.  This man is one of the smartest, kindest men I have ever met.  I am sad to say the least.  He is an amazing teacher.  These school…

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Scar Tissue Friends

My best friend introduced herself within two weeks of my freshman year of college.  I was feeling very far from home and lonely.  Walking down the hall to the bathroom, I passed by a girl in a flowery dress.  The physical embodiment of the 90s grunge hippy chick.  She smiled, told me her name, and…

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