Parenting #101: “The conversational dilemma and arguing with your child”

My two boys are extremely different. Cole is my arguer. If I say…well, just about anything, he will tell me I am wrong. He often asks “why” and try and talk his way out of every directive. It’s exhausting. When it comes to healthy conversations where we could find some connection, he completely shuts down…

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Parenting #101: “A portrait of a teenager”

The first known usage of the word teenager was in 1912. Strange to think about really. Only a few years before the start of World War I and decades away from the 1960s, which is the era of the teenager. Baby Boomers marked record numbers of these youngsters and for the first time in history…

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Parenting #101: “It’s all about the controls”

Anyone raising a teenager knows about the power struggles. It reminds me of when I would play tug-of-war in elementary school. Tug, pull, release, drag, one step closer to the line…one step further away. Other days, it can feel more like a seesaw. The other person has just as much control as you do. It…

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The Best Conversation with My Son During an Afternoon Stroll

My son Jonah has autism and severe anxiety. It has been a lifetime of people asking me, “What’s wrong with Jonah?” There is always something, but he’s ten now, and it seems as if things are starting to change. We always go on long walks in the afternoon. Jonah recites his “monologues”. For those of…

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Question of the Day: “How did I have the BEST conversation with my Teen?”

Talking to teens is tough, but it is not impossible. I know this because I’ve been teaching teens for 20 years and now I have a teen living in my house. Teens are many things. They can be unreasonable, uncommunicative and trying, but they can also be sensitive, struggling, and thoughtful. The real problem with…

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Question of the Day: “What have I learned from COVID?”

It was around my forty-fourth birthday when we went into lockdown due to COVID. Within days, announcements closing schools, restaurants, and stores circulated daily. The news became a dire list of terrible things happening and prophetic estimates about the future. Words like “first wave”, “second wave”, “shortages” and “synchronistic teaching” entered our vernacular. The world…

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Question of the Day: “How much worry is too much?”

Today, I am worried about my son. This past week he has been distant. Every time I try and talk to him, I feel like I push him further away with my words. Everything I say or ask creates an argument I didn’t mean to start. I know he is thirteen, but I am worried.…

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Single Mom Life: “Let’s get you skinny!”

The above quote was said to me by my eight-year-old son.  My son is eight going on eighty-five, and he loves his lists.  After hearing me gripe about not being able to go running because of the 22 degree wind chill, he decided to come up with an indoor workout we could both do.  Apparently,…

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Single Mom Life: Pimples & Pubic Hair

My son Cole is only 11, and I recently saw two emerging pimples on the left side of his nose. “Oh,” I said, “You’re getting pimples.”  I said it lovingly because I realized that this is his ascent into puberty. “Can I pop them?” “No,” he said with shock.  “Why would you do that?” “Come…

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Single Mom Life: A Little Poem for This Cold Morning

My Son Sometimes my son squeaks He points and gesticulates wildly trying to get his point across He can speak But, at that moment, he chooses not to For an entire day I go back and forth–worrying–maybe this is the time he stops talking altogether Do I force words from his lips, from his heart…

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